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How Long Should a Wedding Speech Be? (Exact Numbers)
Short answer: four to five minutes for a best man or maid of honor, three to five for the groom or bride, three to four for parents. Here's the math behind it, and why 'shorter than you think' is the professional rule.
The speaking-pace math
A relaxed speaker delivers 130-140 words per minute — slower than reading pace, because rooms need time and laughter needs space. So: a 4-minute speech is roughly 550 words; five minutes, about 700. If your draft is 1,200 words, you're holding an 8-9 minute speech, and no wedding audience has ever wished a speech were longer.
Add 15-20% to your rehearsal time for real conditions: laughs, pauses, the glass of the person in front of you falling over.
Length by role
Best man / maid of honor: 4-5 minutes (550-720 words) — you carry stories, you get the most time. Groom / bride: 3-5 minutes, thank-yous compressed (a warm collective thank-you beats a fifteen-name list). Parents: 3-4 minutes, one great memory beats three decent ones. Multiple speakers? Agree the total: three speeches over twenty combined minutes is where receptions go to stall.
Every kit we deliver includes accurate word counts and estimated minutes for each version — plus a 60-second backup, because sometimes the schedule (or your nerves) shrinks on the day.
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